My nine month old son has these vicious temper tantrums when he doesn't get what he wants. He would take a fork from the table or my keys, and when I take them he screams bloody murder. If he wakes up and you don't get there "in time" he starts screaming until he looses his voice. When I take him out of the bath, it is the end of his world.
I don't know how to get him to stop. Most times I try to distract him but it upsets me and his siblings. And his dad. I try to distract him with another toy, or hold him for a minute, but he has his own ideas.
Help please! He is such a lovely little boy, except for these terrible tantrums.
First pregnancy: MC + D&C blighted ovum at 10 weeks - 20 July 2014
Second pregnancy: spontaneous MC 27 September 2014
Third pregnancy: Son born 21 Sept 2015 - healthy, happy and huge 3.46kg 52cm
This is what Dr Sears has to say about tantrums at this age: Sounds like you're the lucky mom of a strong-willed, bright little baby: He throws a fit when he doesn't want to do something or he can't do what he wants. Some of the traits that may make him prone to tantrums -- creativity, persistence, and sensitivity -- can eventually become assets when he's grown up, though that may feel like small comfort now.
While this active expression of displeasure doesn't usually occur until toddlerhood, some babies are simply more easily frustrated than others. An impulsive infant will throw a tantrum when his desire to accomplish a feat is greater than his ability to do so.
The first step in helping your baby manage his discomfort is to identify situations that trigger these meltdowns. Then you can intervene before he disintegrates. If one of our babies crumbled when he fell trying to climb onto the couch, my wife, Martha, and I didn't merely pick him up and set him on the sofa. Instead, we placed some cushions on the floor and let him shimmy up them -- a much simpler version of what he wanted to do.
Often, infants who throw tantrums will give you warning signs before they blow up: Stiffening their arms and legs and arching their back are common indicators of trouble ahead. If this happens, immediately try infant massage (lovingly stroke your child's back, arms, and hands). Another option: Get his mind on something besides his distress. When our daughter Hayden was about to throw a frustration fit, we'd quickly distract her by making a funny face -- a strategy we called "rescuing her from herself."
Once your baby's motor and verbal skills catch up with his desires, these types of tantrums will subside.